“Whenever you conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is the attitude.
– William James – American Philosopher& Psychologist –
The foundational in having a loving relationship lies in one’s mindset, meaning you have the desire and commitment for it. I would refer to this as one’s attitude.
It may seem so obvious but wait a minute reflect upon your thinking. Most people focus on wanting to be in a relationship and neglect cultivating the “Right Attitude towards a positive & solid relationship.
You must be clear about what is important to you. Do you want to let the relationship happens by default? Or Do you want a loving and lasting relationship?
Next, you have to define and understand what it means to you clearly? This is where you form your attitude towards it.
List down what it takes for you to change your attitude to achieve your desire.
It is also important to list down your realistic expectations in your relationship and communicate it to your partner otherwise he or she is not going to know.
If you and your partner cannot respect each other needs and wants then it is hard to have a loving & lasting relationship.
However, do realize, the core of your mindset is your belief system. If you do not believe you are worthy of having a loving and lasting relationship, you will have to overcome it through professional help.
You will reap the results when you have a positive belief towards what you desire. Your positive energy will have a ripple effect on your partner.